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Nov 30 17

Gratitude at Ground Zero without the catastrophy

When we hear “Ground Zero” the mind vividly recalls the world center trade bombing of 1993, but “Ground Zero” began long before 911. The Napa, California Fires; The Puerto Rico and Texas Flooding and major world crisis can all fall under this same category.  Learning Gratitude from Ground Zero.

“Ground Zero” in 1946 described atomic attacks in Japan; in 1977 becoming an act of non-violence.  Ground Zero is described as the personal point of the most severe damage or destruction.  Ground Zero brings us to places where we see how little is in our control

Become Ground Zero in this movement — David Orr

Hmmmm, I wonder why it requires a catastrophic event (the point of the most severe damage or destruction) to generate the surreal stillness that leads to community, love and healing?

In the absence of love and belonging, there is always suffering. Always — Brene Brown

My theory and personal experience is that we won’t escape hardship, disappointment and tragedies.  It’s true that “Persistence is resistance”, so there’s no use trying to detour, bypass or avoid these necessary feelings and emotions sometimes judged as inappropriate, wrong or worse sub-human behavior.  I’ve found gems through distress.  Life’s Journey is not a perpetuating smile cruising alongside joy with uninterrupted happiness and sexual delights.

History does not need to teach us every lesson.  Wisdom, Education and Maturation can open up delightful, easeful ways to cultivate, arouse and awaken our conscious listening ears and open mind loosening Ego’s grip prior to the Godsmack or “Surface Zero” We choose how long to stay in the meandering.  We can choose succession, flow and adjust course.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. — haruki murakami

Human civilization is around 6,000 years.  I see myself in every human.  How long must “we” examine and research before we find our Ground Zero?  This surreal, humbling corner that brings up full-on gratitude.  Today, (this moment) I invite you to your personal “surface zero” in gratitudes, like indoor plumbing, flooring, appliances, walls, roofs and the almighty health.

The greatest Wealth is Health – Sarchar Leone

I pray for a world full of close community, connection and nuturing love bringing people up in humanizing versus the dehumanizing that strips human qualities’ away (i.e. racism, categorizing or verbal abuse).  I believe each of us has our own unique connection to our God (purpose) and we are all shining our heart lights together creating magic in wonderment!

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:30-31

It is a time to Brave the Wilderness as so eloquently written by Brene Brown.  You can find more about her book on her blog at https://brenebrown.com/blog/2017/09/07/braving-the-wilderness-excerpt/

 

Be kind to one another, everbody has their own struggles, stay humble




Sep 18 17

Sweat the Small Stuff!

Sweat the Small Stuff

I came across an article this morning yet again saying, “Don’t sweat the small stuff” and this just feels like belly fire for me.  I feel angst with raised shoulders and anger pouring through the keyboard saying, STOP! CHOOSE to sweat the small stuff especially in relationships (i.e. self, intimate, best friend, co-worker, etc.).

I’m a speaker and survivor of Scleroderma and all those (so called) “little” things piled up on an internal shelf until it broke and auto-immunity became my God smack!

Choosing NOT to speak has a price

The price increases when we aren’t listening… sometimes including your own health!

What previously happened when “something small happened”, internally I could “feel” yet almost immediately chose to overrode the body’s wisdom with this OLD saying “Don’t sweat the small stuff”.

Today, I strongly suggest and choose and address every bit of the small stuff; because in my experience it piles up!  There is a way to be angry, sad, happy, despondent or irritated (etc.) with yourself or in relation to others without causing permanent damage to yourself or others by honoring and listening to yourself.  The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.

Ask yourself, How Do I forget about me?  When Do I forget about me?  AND the most important question is what am I willing to create something different instead?  I want to share my visionary gifts and learn about your creative intuitive genius.

Check out Rory Sutherland’s Ted Talk and Sweat the Small Stuff

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Rory Sutherland

Another Great Little Book on Why “The Little Things” needs our attention by Andy Andrews

Are you ready to begin creating a life beyond your imagination?

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection — Buddha




Jul 24 17

Unplug to Recharge

More living OFFLINE! Increased Reflection and SELF-LOVE

Technology has improved lives in so many ways, however, it continues to lose its shimmer and appeal to me this Summer Season.  Do you recall the last time you went to the beach? ocean? camping? lake? or favorite body of nature?  When was the last time you prepared and executed an exquisite meal for yourself just to self-love and enjoy the unknown?  What about a day trip of hiking or exploring?  I’m curious did you tap in to your heart’s experience?  How long could you savor the moment before posting to Facebook, Instagram or some other social media.  I remember a simpler time when we informed another as to where we were going (and if I didn’t respond by xx then call in the troops or come looking for me).

Sharing my personal experience…  For the most part, I find my essence being solo, but you may want to bring that special someone, children or animals, there is no “right” answer, just follow your heart.  I generally locate my bliss in the beauty of spending time with myself and definitely OFFLINE.  I then occupy the space to focus on my dreams in parallel notably enjoying the process (whatever wants to happen having no expectations, assumption or control agenda) I  treasure trove that I have more time and that my mind is less “busy”.  In this creative arena I develop into an intensely rooted presence while experiencing a lighter, calmer more balanced version of myself I name essence.  Time away repeatedly provides reflection, a place to evaluate my results; where I’m making my “energy deposits” and if it remains a good investment of my energy.

Now, To be transparent, I am by no means a Technology Natzi, on the contrary; I actually love it!!!  Without technology, I couldn’t have built my successful business(es) or connect with so many like-minded people.  It’s such a gift!  However, being a “virtual” gift means we need to create palpable ways to balance.  Listening to the physical body is so critical to support this balance and inner wisdom.

My invitation is to investigate what local choices can you schedule (daily or weekly) to take time and savor the beauty of your own backyard.  Are you willing to frame time to stop and smell the flowers…  plan a long walk… re-connect with nature… turn on some great music… dance… read a book… cook… go for a bike ride… write a song or poem… draw… collage or craft…  nap…. what is your heart’s true desire? What do you really want?  These baby step will lead you to those answers.  Start by establishing an impeccable agreement with yourself of when and how long your willing to unplug and recharge.  Where will you make your bliss?

Much Love, Gina

 




Mar 1 17

Sweet Surrender

In my experience “something always happens” and when it does it’s our choice of how we wish to respond to this “something”.  It can show up as getting sick, overworking,  hurting ourselves, arguing with our kids or spouse or not getting a full night’s sleep cause your 20-year old near senile cat wakes you up every few hours.  In actuality, these are all opportunities.

Every moment we have an opportunity to stretch in to the ambiguity of the unknown.  Some have named it faith or presence.  In my practice, we train and coach body-centered therapy for rapid, noticeable change in daily life condensing the natural process of healing.  Essence is the body space in which I reside.

Can you name some of the ways you wander…

Do you criticize? Blame? Do you get lost in analyzing or figuring it out?  There are MANY ways to drift and I won’t list them all here; but when you find yourself getting busy, rushing or feeling like you’re  j u s t  not enough these are signs that something is happening and an opportunity to do something different.

This past month the last thing on my mind was to “ask a wonder question” or “love my experience”.  I am not immune from the human condition.  In fact, I began to distract myself with work, watching movies, sirfing the net and overriding my body to avoid physical pain. It’s well known that resistance is persistence and persistence will override resistance until we listen. I’ve found this to be true.  When I began to recommit to presence, I released a huge chest opening that allowed breath and connection to FEEL my emotions.  The more accurately I could name my emotions the quicker I moved thru them and could begin to address and appreciate what was being revealed.  This is what I describe as Sweet Surrender.

  • I am completely responsible for all my feelings
  • I am completely responsible for my well-being

Looking at the word “Surrender” It no longer holds a negative annotation for me.  In fact I find it quite “sweet”.  There is such beauty in vulnerability and self-love.

In the spirit of the season’s new beginnings…   I hope you will continue to make big leaps in love and life.

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Much Love, Gina

 




Aug 31 16

Empower Yourself

Empower Yourself meter sign concept illustration design graphic

Are you a Drill Sargent? Task Master? or maybe a Control Freak?
Are your old tired stories getting boring? maybe not giving you the same hit that they previously provided?

We tell ourselves all the time that we should “let it go.” We feel the cost of holding on so tightly. We know that it’s a good idea to let go of stories from the past that are dragging us down, but how do you do it? I’ll share six words with you… “Pay attention to your aliveness meter”

When you are in these characters, do you feel a drain of energy when you’re doing it? or does your aliveness meter get fed? Do you understand energy can cost your health, your presence, your happiness! Don’t give it away! Find out what feeds you cause this is the stuff I’m talking about!!! The juicy stuff!!! The times that life just seems too good, yes, I want to live there and not just part of the time, all of the time!

We cannot make people do things, we cannot get lost in a bunch of tasks nor are we able to try and control. The key word being “try”, as most things on the planet are outside of our control. In fact, about the only thing that is in your control is how you decide to respond to life. Everything else…whether people will like you, how people will feel when you tell them something, what other people think, whether someone keeps their agreements with you…ALL are outside of your control.

Devote yourself to your aliveness, stand up for it, listen for its voice. Notice when your aliveness is up and flowing and notice when it’s dropping. It is your true guide. Are you willing to let it go and choose your full on aliveness?

I wrote this article about a year ago today on Visions of Success Facebook; however today felt I myself needed a reminder.    Awareness of what “your results are” is a big clue to what your committed to creating.  Today, I will commit and appreciate in Visions of Success’ Facebook group “Life Changing Play”, I invite you to come join our creative “play”ground.

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Much Love,
Gina




Jul 5 16

How to get out of the Box

Innovation, Ideas and creative thinking come most when the mind is open and curious.  So when are we fully open and curious?  In my experience it’s from cultivating the proper environment for growth.  Let me give you an example, when I am about to plant tomatoes I make sure my soil is nutrient rich with tomato fertilizer on hand, proper structural support and placed in the right spot for optimum sun!   These babies are poised for ultimate growth and yummy goodness!!!  How do we do this for ourselves that the light simply shines on us and we have ultimate growth?  How do we receive innovation, inspiration and ideas freely? How do we become aligned with our being and our purpose?

Here are 3 critical steps;

  • Recognize Familiar
  • Stand in the Unknown
  • Stretch & Create More Space 

Step 1  –  Take yourself out of the familiar box!  You know that box you “go to” or “do” everyday.  You know the one that almost feels as if you’ve fallen asleep on yourself and you are able to do it at times with your eyes closed.  Yeah, this box!  You may actually feel a drain of energy almost immediately when recognizing and acknowledging this box.

Step 2  –  Next, Stand in the Unknown allowing random thoughts to enter.  When I say “thoughts” it doesn’t mean that these thoughts necessarily will be true.  Well, it could be true to you, but have you verified this story lately?  Trust me, thoughts will enter the mind, it could be as simple as, “Okay, I’m bored already and there’s so many things I could be doing vs. standing here waiting for this random epiphany this exercise is telling me I’m going to experience!” Let’s start here.  Is that true?  Am I bored?  What did the mind say?  Now, ask your body as silly as it may sound, start by closing your eyes and doing a full body-check.  Breathe in & out bringing the breathe all the way to the top of your brain, circling the entire head, then moving thru the neck & shoulders; maybe add some sound on the out-breath?  There’s no cheating; do this until you’ve hit every nook of your body’s beautiful cellular DNA BODY!  Now, wait…  Ask yourself again AFTER the full body check – you still bored?  Are you committed to being bored?

Step 3  – If you’ve made it past step 2, Congratulations!  You’re on your way out of the box and in to more creative space!  So, how many feet are out of the box?  Is there any part of your body physically left in this box? What do you see? Have your legs re-planted on the earth?  What’s the ground look like?  Where are your feet?  Do you have shoes on? Are you on a paved surface?  Fresh Dirt or maybe warm sand?  Let’s begin to dig our toes into this new surface we’ve created unless where wearing shoes, then we may need to take them off?  Now, slowly begin to stretch your arms towards the clouds using sound when possible (and if there are no clouds in your personal image, just reach up) and stretch FULLY into your vision.  Are you breathing?

From this new space with improved “elbow room” we’ve cultivated a greater open & curious platform for creative thinking.  Are you still feeling crowded, overwhelmed and maybe even suffocating? Then start again on #1, maybe it takes a few tries or maybe a full on emotional breakdown.  There is no right or wrong outcome in this exercise.  We are all at different places in our lives with varying responsibilities, but if you’re thus far in your research, I can already testify to your inquisition to create a new way of being.

Now, I want to add that if your box is presently a bunch of creative thinkers, full of aliveness and connection, then by no means am I discouraging this co-creation and collaboration; but maybe the thought is to encourage a bigger box?  We all fall in a “box” of some sort at times, even if just “limited thinking” including myself.  I have been practicing for over a decade, challenging my belief systems and validating if they serve me today.  I use full body check-in’s, persona play (which I didn’t touch much on today) and many other resources, tools and villages.

Would you be interested in more exploration? or help locating this beautiful, roomy, comfortable and juicy space of non-stop fuel that feeds aliveness making life’s journey a ride that tickets are free?  The very best investment you can make is yourself whether with Visions of Success or a good book.  I invite you to find your magic and share it with the world.  Stay awake my friends.

Much Love,

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Gina




Apr 12 16

Relationship Success

Stage One – Readiness

New Mindset Chapter 1

Have you ever said, “If only my partner could see/hear”?  …or “I just want it to be like they used to”  or maybe “How come he/she doesn’t do or act like when we met?”,  Do they still love me? This is a  difficult path to navigate communication in a relationship.  The two simple words “IF ONLY” has us looking for answers outside ourselves, forever trying to change how others behave in order to feel better about our own lives.

if only this person acted a certain way, or if only they would (you fill in the blank) make more money? get some cooperation around the house?

Even if we got everything we wanted, there would be something else to eat away at our contentment, because the if onlys are only symptoms of the real problem
By the time couples come to therapy , sometimes it is beyond repair.

What do you Really believe about love? When you operate from these limited beliefs, you wind up with limited options.
The tricky part is most of us don’t realize when we’re not loving ourselves!  The work we do on ourselves offers new lenses of how you’re showing up in your life and with others both conscious and unconsciously.  Are you open and curious to creating or finding the Love of your Life and a Life that you Love?  I invite you to work on your VISION and understand your Requirements, Needs and Wants; including relationship  agreements / plans.

Why use a relationship coach

  1. You Value Relationships Highly
  2. You are committed to Success
  3. You want Results
  4. You are willing to learn
  5. You are ready for action
  6. You are open to mentoring support
  7. You want fulfillment
  8. You want to be true to yourself
  9. You want to be proactive
  10. You want to go beyond your limits
  11. You want to take responsibility
  12. You want to live authentically
  13. You =want balance in your life
  14. You want new possibilities for your relationships

What you believe, you can achieve!
If you can’t be in a great relationship, why be in one?

Much Love,
Gina




Feb 29 16

Visions of Success continues to empower ENOUGH!

Coming from a place of ENOUGH

Spend it ANY way you want, YOUR Choice – REALLY IT IS !!!

Claim YOUR time, it’s YOURS!!!  Guilt FREE!!!

How does attachment take my time? What is attachment?  Attachment to Money? Attachment to Spouse?  Attachment to all those things I say I Need to do!  There are many things we attach ourselves to unconsciously, which does not always allow us to manifest what we desire & want most.  What if I asked you to create from a place of ENOUGH.  Enough Time, Enough Money, Enough Food, Enough Love (I could go on here), but simply start at “Creating from Enough” without allowing your attention to wander to the past or the future.

So, coming from a place of “I have no time” what are you talking about?  I have to get up early get the kids out the door, or maybe it’s “I need to drop my spouse of at work because we only have one car right now?!” or maybe the excuse is well “If I stop doing and start being then I’ll be bored” or maybe there’s a story of “I’ll be alone” or worse maybe “I’ll be alone with nothing to do” not much curiosity or presence in those statements, just a bunch of fear based induced conclusions!

Starting from ENOUGH consciously brings experience in the present.  Check in right now and bring awareness to what YOUR doing in this moment, Are you being fed or drained?  When you begin to experience claiming YOUR time, standing right here in the “NOW”  having nothing to do with the circumstances around you; and not allowing thought to take you out of your experience it’s a completely different experience and often brings gifts and surprises!

I can attest that I feel more on track when claiming my time, it’s MINE!!!  I can share that some of my other obligations that actually bring me more revenue, but coming from a place of ENOUGH I don’t NEED revenue, I have everything I need.  It’s a very special commitment to self.  I can choose to create more not because I need to, but because I want to.

Pay close attention, listen deeply and notice how excited and fueled with everything you do from that place of enough-ness!  Know that you are being fueled by trust rather than fear and now spreading a contagious level of inspiration to all those around you to want the same.

We no longer need excuses to not go out with a friend, call in sick, not clean the house.  We don’t need another story to enjoy the time we want to see what experience can happen from that place of “I have enough Time” That everything is and will be alright if I take care of myself first.  Even in the airplane, you put the oxygen mask on 1st before placing on your child, but what if you never needed the oxygen system? — Are you ready to commit to having enough time?  Take it even a step further… Are you willing to Having enough of everything and witness the difference of the experience coming from this place?  “Everything you want is on the other side of fear” — Rumi

Love,

Gina Velez

Business, Life and Relationship Coach

We manifest our visions long before we create them!

Seamlessly integrating Starting at Enough




Nov 17 15

Winter Blues

During the winter season we often can find ourselves in a funk, feeling hopeless, worthless or irritable. We often lose interest in social activities. Winter Blues are a known as a time for hibernation where becoming withdrawn feels more natural as we fight low energy, oversleep and put on weight. You may find yourself craving carbohydrates,” such as chips, cereal, crackers, and cookies. All clues it’s time to Relax, Read, Exercise or contact a Good Friend. These symptoms generally last until the days start getting longer.

Sad little girl looking out the window.

“Spring, summer, and fall fill us with hope; winter alone reminds us of the human condition.”

Permission to bask in the knowing that Winter is a time of Wisdom; Wisdom has been regarded as one of four cardinal virtues promoting collective and individual greatness!

Much Warmth and Love,

Gina




Nov 16 15

The Importance of Unwinding

Happy childhood, the family concept.pretty little girl playing with a spinning top.Isolated on white.

Hmm… “The Importance of Unwinding”

I almost want to say “enough said” looking at this picture of a happy little girl and her top – right?   We have the talent to wind this top up really good and then let her fly!!!  What I remember as a kid was that it was a bit more difficult to wind it up, and sometimes when over-wound, it broke.  I also remember when you wound it just the right amount, it was a whole lot’a fun to let it go!!! Similar to my first memory of a slide!   So, I ask when did it become so hard to let it go? … as humans we can gravitate to the same old patterns and I’m no exception to this madness.

I practice awareness on a daily level and can easily go unconscious and allow my “masks” to take over.  My personal favorite mask is the one that says “everything is okay” or “I got this” where I place everyone’s needs ahead of my own without blinking an eye.  Honestly, in the wind-up phase I’m no longer really setting anchorage to my body at this point, it’s an immediate brain response and I’m glad my mask is blocking my view so I don’t have to feel.  During the “winding phase” I believe there is no significance of my body sensations cause I am no longer listening to my body.  I call it emotional stacking.  It’s a shelf over in the corner of the room behind the door so no one can see it, not even me.

I recently gifted myself a 3-day “unwinding phase” and this is where I could really tap into how extremely tight my neck had become and especially between those shoulder blades.  I could also recognize a deep soreness in my jaw that revealed it’s contribution to my headaches.  The 1st day I slept, created a story it was the flu, not fully believing it.  I did have a lot of congestion and absolutely no energy, so maybe it could be… but by day 2 I was feeling better noticing a fierce resentment to work and anyone that wanted anything from me.  BY day 3 I could clearly see the cost of my over-winding.  I no longer  condemned my work or wanted to shun people from my life.  I felt movement in my shoulders and a need to stretch deeply and re-connect with my body.  I had breathe, long luscious deep nourishing breath.

Thank goodness that WE have the Power to re-program and change these old, worn-out patterns.  I am creating new belief systems shifting dilapidated patterns.  WE have a choice to turn on daily awareness and create sustainable, healthier, happier, momentous beings living in our vital experience.  Think about the word “vital” root of VITALITY!

“Letting it go” can be as simple as “unwinding” and letting your top fly and capturing some play time!  Much Love — Gina





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