Courage Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, Live the life you have imagined - Henry D. Thoreau Grace


Dec 29 22

Growing in Grace

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I awoke in curiosity, wondering how to “focus” on what needed to be done this day. I tapped in to what my whole body wanted being quite different leading me to a book my Mom had bought me years ago. I wish it had a date, but it was just signed

To Gina,
Love, Mom

I believe the universe sends us signals, guiding us to what we most need or want.
Today, the universe sent me a clear message and invitation.

My invitation to you, is to pause
Take a moment to take a slow, deep inhale (maybe lowering your shoulders), repeating as many times until you feel your whole-body. Open to see what wants to download or what Ah-ha’s are possible in this moment.

A buinocular view at my current reality; choosing to end an intimate relationship.

How do I leave someone I love?

How do I leave someone I see myself growing old with?

How do I do alone “again!”

Am I that “cat lady”

_______________  your story, fear or excuses that shift you out of Integrity

He was involved in a messy divorce for nearly five years when we met. I committed to be invisible wjile child custody was going on, to not affect his outcome. I did not take in to consideration how this would affect my outcome.

When I would tell him about my thoughts, he would say, “Can’t you make up better thoughts“, so I began to think maybe I was crazy. I was willing to devalue myself to have the chance of being loved by him.

I’ve learned that I am not willing to beg to be loved nor fight for someone’s attention.

I learned I can be in a relationship and not lose myself. I’m learning to trust myself, and today of all days the universe hands me a book titled, “Growing in Grace”

Much Love,
Gina

Photo Credit: @shotbycerqueira
For more affirmation, Genesis 2:8-25




Jan 12 21

Choosing Your Next Coach or Therapist

I read an article that lit me up and I wanted to share with all of you!

We ‘humans’ require active practicing to understand our full body Yes’s and No’s while navigating our awareness paths.  Odds are what works for me won’t work for you AND tapping into our TRUEST core (Innerself) opens up space and yummy A-has!

When searching for your life’s purpose consider listening your body’s intelligence. What do you FEEL from your whole body knowing? not what you “think” you should do.  I can honestly say that my job as a life coach is is not “talk therapy” you can go to your best friend for this.

Recently, we’ve all shared in a global pandemic, a threatened US democracy and personal losses (e.g. job, homes, social life).  As she mentions in the article,  as I quote

There are several routes that you can take toward self-improvement

At one time I was very vested on what degrees and certifications I hung on my wall, long before the International Coaching Federation became the buzz.  What this article lacks on is the coaches Individual education and what her definition of “rigorous standards” are.  This is your homework.  I would say a good life coach will guide you by listening deeply and offering exquisite questions designed towards whole healing. Ultimately, I agree that a life coach is someone who can support you no matter what’s going on in your world.

We do not live in a world of “either / or” so if you find yourself between white and black with no gray, you may want to get curious and wonder what else? or hire a partner to support you in living and designing your best life!

If you genuinely care about the goal, you’ll focus on the system – James Clear

 




Aug 4 20

Are you present? How do you know?

Ask yourself, “Where are my feet”?

Invite them to move gently back and forth or side to side to HOW are they moving?

WHAT is the pressure like? Light, Heavy, easy or difficult?

WHERE is the pressure; all in your heels? toes?

Your feet are weighted properly when your standing like a camera on a tripod.  Weight is on the front “pad” (fatty part) both big and little toe sides and the heel; you should be able to feel all three points.  Maybe bend your knees and make sure you are breathing.

WHAT story am I telling myself right now?  Is what is happening on my insides reflecting on my outsides? For example if my stomach hurts and I’m laughing with friends I may not be “matching” from the inside-out.

Are you still trying to “figure it out” or are you actually being with RIGHT NOW?  What’s actually here now?

What’s here now if there are no problems to solve?  AND again, How do you know?

Being present means fully enjoying the moment that you are in. It is the moment when you are calm and you know exactly what you want.

Learn more about your FULL BODY YES’s and NO’s with a FREE 30-minute introductory session thru 12/31/2020

“Smile, breathe and go slowly” – Thich Nhat Hanh

Match your steps to your breath to pull yourself back in the present moment.




Feb 26 19

Seasonal Depression

Sometimes Chocolate isn’t enough…

Be Exactly who you are and Be Loved

The sky is encapsulating, gray dreary clouds, the silence after a storm and a bad cold can create a depressing story. During the winter months locating energy, emotions or even an interest to live can surface and often does.

Socializing seems daunting, hiding feelings of sadness, staying safe, choosing to hibernate drowning out feelings with food, television or sleep seems easier. How do we accept sad? Be with depressed? …. and Love I’m afraid. This dark place often brings dense head fog and thoughts of suicide

Some may suggest a trip to the gym increasing serotine levels, the “happy hormone”. Others may swear by light therapy or antidepressants. I’ve personally tried them all and found what sometimes appears to be the hardest is actually often the remedy.

In my latest spell of depression I witnessed myself falling to old patterns seeking exogenous emotional comfort avoiding being afraid, crying and being utterly sad. Wouldn’t somebody just hold me, love me or better yet know of an instant gratification type device, pill or formula?

Einstein said it best “Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again expeting different results”

Resistance and Acceptance cannot coexist, so what holds us back from making a “new choice”? FEAR is paralyzing and New Choice is unfamiliar and requires immense amounts of courage. I compare it to a whole new operating system with multiple software updates.

Avoiding Danger is no safer in the long run that outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold. – Helen Keller

 

COURAGE is the ability to do something that frightens one; strength in the face of pain or grief.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. We often fall victim choosing to be paralyzed in Fear, but what if we could take one small action step in choosing to face. In the Hendricks work Facing is a part of F.A.C.T (Facing, Accepting, Choosing and Taking Action). FACT is a gateway to building blocks of courage.

Depression is Real

Depression is strength. Depression is noticing the constant emptiness weighing down inside of you. Those that experience depression experience a state that affects their everyday lives. This is facing suffering with dignity or faith.

Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore – Lord Chesterfield

I recommend and keep a journal getting what’s in our heads out. Below I’ve compiled a list of tools that I’ve found useful in bouts of Depression and I hope they will support you in your lives. There is no wrong or right, no external secret recipe, no pill to take it away. Follow your body intelligence with love and acceptance of what is happening and look inward kindly.

  • Savoring Bubble Baths with Epson salt, essential oils or CBD
  • Delicious Movies, Warm-Fuzzy Blanket Day
  • Flavorful Hot Tea Moments throughout the day
  • Support Group or Community
  • Beating myself up with a soft feather
  • Warmly Welcoming my emotions and all parts of me
  • Loving gently and kindly what is
  • Easeful Movement (exercise, fear melters, walking, etc.)
  • Conscious Breathing
  • Massage or massaging myself with fingertips or hands
  • Phoning a good friend or being with myself as I would with a good friend
  • Allowing myself to Feel Afraid

I invite you to post a resource or anything you’d be willing to share in the comments feed choosing enhancing our community while growing our Human Condition in LOVE.





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