Dec 11 18

Happiness Set Point

If you’re human, you’ve probably spent a lot of time in the realm of reason. There are numerous articles appearing now on the “Science of Happiness” recently Time Magazine did an entire issue on Happiness. 

It’s never too late to be who you might have been – George Elliot

Positive Psychology emphasizes positive influences create positive change in a person’s life.  There’s books going back to Budha that state changing your thoughts will change our life and reality.  Could it be that easy?  …and How long will it take before I see some proof.

Let’s disect the above sentence, “How long will it take before I see some proof”?  this sentence is lodged in the primal brain returning us to the realm of reason (hunting for evidence; stuckness).  If you’re anything like me you have a built-in Skeptic looking for evidence that usually lives in F.E.A.R (False Evidence Appearing Real) ready to protect me from a variety of projections. (i.e. being taken advantage of, hurt). However, I assure you beyond fear you can become a happier you!

Learn More about Fear – Hendricks Fear Melters™ 

Im in my full Mastery of appreciation, self-love and speaking in unarguable truths through practice over the last decade.  In my opinion, changes take courage and commitment (and constant re-commitment). Imagine no one teaching you to brush your teeth?  You’d need to set up a regimen to support this new habit – right?  So, my question for you this day (and myself, since I won’t ask anything of you that I am not willing to do myself) is what small activity would you be willing to create this day for yourself? Would you be willing to be happier – not to mention healthier?

“Scientists have recently determined that it takes approximately 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain – unless it is done with play, in which case, it takes between 10 and 20 repetitions!” – Dr. Karyn Purvis

I invite you all to enjoy a 2-minute self-aware, conscious break with intention of moving your body in a way that is pleasurable to you. Are you open to appreciate yourself or someone else this day?  Could the glass be half full and not half empty?

When was the last time you used all 5 senses? 

How can we remember and support each other to play?  Did you realize people learn more when playing using our senses?  Today my version of “play” is simply appreciating breathing air while enjoying sights and sounds. What’s your version of “Play”?

Would you be willing to do this as a practice this week?  Intergrating practice while walking or simply with the windows down driving home?  Creativity is innovation and uses the imagination, opening up possibilities.  Happiness is not set in stone.  We have the power to Reset our Hapiness Set point and if you’d like more information you can start here or work with a coach like me! The recipe is inside you and it will be as yummy as you want it to be!

Each Day, we choose how to spend our life’s energy.  It is how we create our own reality —

In Love,


Apr 12 16

Relationship Success

Stage One – Readiness

New Mindset Chapter 1

Have you ever said, “If only my partner could see/hear”?  …or “I just want it to be like they used to”  or maybe “How come he/she doesn’t do or act like when we met?”,  Do they still love me? This is a  difficult path to navigate communication in a relationship.  The two simple words “IF ONLY” has us looking for answers outside ourselves, forever trying to change how others behave in order to feel better about our own lives.

if only this person acted a certain way, or if only they would (you fill in the blank) make more money? get some cooperation around the house?

Even if we got everything we wanted, there would be something else to eat away at our contentment, because the if onlys are only symptoms of the real problem
By the time couples come to therapy , sometimes it is beyond repair.

What do you Really believe about love? When you operate from these limited beliefs, you wind up with limited options.
The tricky part is most of us don’t realize when we’re not loving ourselves!  The work we do on ourselves offers new lenses of how you’re showing up in your life and with others both conscious and unconsciously.  Are you open and curious to creating or finding the Love of your Life and a Life that you Love?  I invite you to work on your VISION and understand your Requirements, Needs and Wants; including relationship  agreements / plans.

Why use a relationship coach

  1. You Value Relationships Highly
  2. You are committed to Success
  3. You want Results
  4. You are willing to learn
  5. You are ready for action
  6. You are open to mentoring support
  7. You want fulfillment
  8. You want to be true to yourself
  9. You want to be proactive
  10. You want to go beyond your limits
  11. You want to take responsibility
  12. You want to live authentically
  13. You =want balance in your life
  14. You want new possibilities for your relationships

What you believe, you can achieve!
If you can’t be in a great relationship, why be in one?

Much Love,

Nov 17 15

Winter Blues

During the winter season we often can find ourselves in a funk, feeling hopeless, worthless or irritable. We often lose interest in social activities. Winter Blues are a known as a time for hibernation where becoming withdrawn feels more natural as we fight low energy, oversleep and put on weight. You may find yourself craving carbohydrates,” such as chips, cereal, crackers, and cookies. All clues it’s time to Relax, Read, Exercise or contact a Good Friend. These symptoms generally last until the days start getting longer.

Sad little girl looking out the window.

“Spring, summer, and fall fill us with hope; winter alone reminds us of the human condition.”

Permission to bask in the knowing that Winter is a time of Wisdom; Wisdom has been regarded as one of four cardinal virtues promoting collective and individual greatness!

Much Warmth and Love,


Nov 16 15

The Importance of Unwinding

Happy childhood, the family concept.pretty little girl playing with a spinning top.Isolated on white.

Hmm… “The Importance of Unwinding”

I almost want to say “enough said” looking at this picture of a happy little girl and her top – right?   We have the talent to wind this top up really good and then let her fly!!!  What I remember as a kid was that it was a bit more difficult to wind it up, and sometimes when over-wound, it broke.  I also remember when you wound it just the right amount, it was a whole lot’a fun to let it go!!! Similar to my first memory of a slide!   So, I ask when did it become so hard to let it go? … as humans we can gravitate to the same old patterns and I’m no exception to this madness.

I practice awareness on a daily level and can easily go unconscious and allow my “masks” to take over.  My personal favorite mask is the one that says “everything is okay” or “I got this” where I place everyone’s needs ahead of my own without blinking an eye.  Honestly, in the wind-up phase I’m no longer really setting anchorage to my body at this point, it’s an immediate brain response and I’m glad my mask is blocking my view so I don’t have to feel.  During the “winding phase” I believe there is no significance of my body sensations cause I am no longer listening to my body.  I call it emotional stacking.  It’s a shelf over in the corner of the room behind the door so no one can see it, not even me.

I recently gifted myself a 3-day “unwinding phase” and this is where I could really tap into how extremely tight my neck had become and especially between those shoulder blades.  I could also recognize a deep soreness in my jaw that revealed it’s contribution to my headaches.  The 1st day I slept, created a story it was the flu, not fully believing it.  I did have a lot of congestion and absolutely no energy, so maybe it could be… but by day 2 I was feeling better noticing a fierce resentment to work and anyone that wanted anything from me.  BY day 3 I could clearly see the cost of my over-winding.  I no longer  condemned my work or wanted to shun people from my life.  I felt movement in my shoulders and a need to stretch deeply and re-connect with my body.  I had breathe, long luscious deep nourishing breath.

Thank goodness that WE have the Power to re-program and change these old, worn-out patterns.  I am creating new belief systems shifting dilapidated patterns.  WE have a choice to turn on daily awareness and create sustainable, healthier, happier, momentous beings living in our vital experience.  Think about the word “vital” root of VITALITY!

“Letting it go” can be as simple as “unwinding” and letting your top fly and capturing some play time!  Much Love — Gina

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